Connecting in Chaos

Building Strong Families by Putting Marriage First

Married couples report that they are least satisfied in marriage during the child rearing years. They become busy and distracted, and many lose intimacy. Our aim is to offer information and tips to help couples who are worn down by their kids and life to have stronger, happier marriages against all odds. It is our hope that this blog will be a source of helpful information for couples who wish to strengthen their connection in chaos.
Posted on Tuesday, April 9, 2013
“If you’re not going to say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”  How many times did we hear that as a kid? In looking back at this too oftenly used phrase, I see that it was a temporary fix that caused one child to feel they had better not talk for fear they would get in trouble. ...
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Posted on Saturday, April 6, 2013
I have been looking forward to this video post about Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.  It is so important that we are aware of all the different aspects of our relationships.  Just remember to schedule time with your spouse to keep the spark alive. References: Sternberg, Robert...
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Posted on Saturday, April 6, 2013
There are many blogs online that can be found on marriage, but very few besides our blog, caught my eye as much as a blog called Engaged Marriage.  Don’t stay married, stay engaged, was the main theme of this blog.  What a wonderful reminder it was that post marriage life can be just as...
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Posted on Saturday, April 6, 2013
It's a little cheesy (blame the amateur acting skills of yours truly and my husband, Swen!), but you get the general idea.  Research shows having fun together increases satisfaction in the marriage.  Couples get so busy and tired, they often forget to make time for each other.  When...
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Posted on Saturday, March 30, 2013
There are many phrases used to describe our spouses. In Argentina, where my wife is from and where we were married many people are always waiting for their "media naranja" or orange half.  In the U.S. we often refer to our spouse as our 'other half' or 'better half'. By referring to our significant...
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Posted on Friday, March 29, 2013
Let's talk about sex for a moment, shall we? Let's face it--sex gets complicated when you add kids to the mix.  Either they come in your room right when things are getting started or they camp out right outside the door when you're trying to have a moment (Shhhh!).  There are crazy hormone...
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Posted on Monday, March 25, 2013
“From reading this book, you will learn that not all differences will be resolved. Differences are a normal part of life. The goal is not too think alike, but to think together (Matheson, 2009, x).” This is just one phrase from the book Keeping Love Alive: Answers to 100 Marriage Questions by Kenneth...
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