Just as it is important for children to communicate to get their point across, married couples need to also grasp the importance of it. Because of marital problems that arise in a marriage, such as finances, differences in raising children, and meeting/or not meeting each other’s needs, it’s no wonder that frustrating, negative feelings pose a threat to decrease marital satisfaction. With effective communication, couples learn to express their needs and show love and concern towards one another.
Luckily, there are ways for children and spouses alike to use effective communication. One way to communicate something in a marriage is to show affection towards your spouse. Doing something nice like doing the dishes, making a nice note, and using positive tones and facial expressions when discussing important matters, shows your spouse that you love and care for them; and that they are more important than the problems discussed in a marriage. Another way to effectively communicate, is to express what your needs are. How is your spouse supposed to know what you need if you don’t tell him? Listen patiently as he tells you his needs, and share yours with him. This way, your spouse feels like his needs are validated, and the chances of them being met are increased. And yet, another important tool in expressing good communication is collaborating. This is a very important aspect of communication. It means that compromise and just talking are not good enough. With collaboration, spouses set time aside to sit and discuss what is bothering them, what needs to be done, or even what makes them happy. This setting alleviates the potential of having a frustrating tug-of-war, so to speak. There are many other ways to communicate more positively with your spouse, many of which can find there place while communicating.
By understanding and utilizing these tools, and others, using verbal and non verbal communication, a married couple can create an environment where, even if there is something concerning, negative, or missing in their marriage, they don’t just have to not say anything at all; they can talk about or show it.
By understanding and utilizing these tools, and others, using verbal and non verbal communication, a married couple can create an environment where, even if there is something concerning, negative, or missing in their marriage, they don’t just have to not say anything at all; they can talk about or show it.
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I agree with your comments. I know a couple who divorced after 20 years. The wife decided as a young child that she was not going to fight with her husband the way her parents did. As an adult, she didn't fight with her husband, but unfortunately, they didn't communicate either. I think many conflicts can be resolved if both people can lovingly and respectfully discuss their differences.
I think communications is one of the most important things not just in marriage but also in a relationship. Thank you for sharing this post, it was interesting and enjoyable to read.
I agree , we all need to learn to communicate in an effective manor. I like your idea of telling your mate what your needs are. Are mates aren't mind readers and we shouldn't expect them to be. If couples could and would just sit down and just listen to the other person. I mean really listen I think there would be a lot more happy couples and more happy marriages. Thanks for your suggestions.